Taylor Ann, color designer of THE DRESS
NOTE: Today November 3, 2023 marks the 5th anniversary
of Dusty’s marriage to Sergey Tsalkov whom we affectionately
refer to as “The Russian Kid.” We rejoice in their special bond
to each other with God at the center of their love and life together.
I‘m not sure what made me revisit my wedding dress. I was sitting in a coffee shop, wrestling with the arc of my novel. I’d gotten a decent chunk written, so my mind was seeking an excuse to exit. What I really wanted was a good old-fashioned distraction.
I was still one or two years away from planning my own wedding when a young artist named Taylor Ann went viral for hand-dying her own wedding dress. Before this moment, there was no fixed vision laid down for any potential wedding ceremony I might have. I’m not one of the ladies who has been dreaming of my nuptials since childhood. Indeed, it had only recently come to mind that it might be good to start thinking through some of the details. Yet, as these images crossed my dashboard on Tumblr, something in my heart begged, “Me too. I want to bring all the colors to my wedding, too.”
I was able to keep the coloration of the dress a secret from Sergey until I walked down the aisle. His reaction, and the day, was everything I’d hoped for. I danced with my husband wearing all the colors of sunrise and sunset.
So there I sat in the coffee shop, wondering why I was still holding onto the dress.
First, where do I get off predicting what I’ll want to wear in forty years, much less what I’ll be ABLE to wear by then? Or predicting that we’ll even want such a ceremony? Perhaps we will be perfectly happy to continue being in each others’ company without an elaborate demonstration to mark the occasion. Perhaps, if we do want to mark the occasion, I’ll want to wear something that demonstrates who I’ve become at that point, and not who I used to be. Hanging onto my initial wedding dress because of this marginally possible situation didn’t make sense.
A proud Mom helps the bride with final adjustments
Sergey opted to keep his wedding outfit as there was not a huge aftermarket
My first step was to get the dress cleaned. However, due to the way it had been colored, dry-cleaning was not an option. So, I contacted Taylor Ann for the second time. By this time, she no longer accepted custom work and, instead, booted up a boutique called Canvas Bridal that flips and upcycles wedding dresses, selling the finished product as-is. I pitched her the idea that I wanted to donate the dress and requested her services to clean the dress and then ship it to its final destination. Her response sounded delighted, so we negotiated the cleaning fee, and I went to work packing up the dress.
A final Spin around the kitchen
NOTE: Dusty writes a wonderful blog
called Wanna Be Writer’s Ink.
The writings is definitely entertaining
and worth reading. Subscribe for free here.